Whether we think so or not, the word "NO" can be one of the most difficult to deliver. This is because we fear letting people down, appearing selfish, or not measuring up to the standards and expectations of others. However, saying No to things that upset or interrupt your peace, happiness, wellness, or devalue you can be the best policy. It may be time to say "No" when saying "Yes" to others forces you to say "No" to yourself.
Many of us will never notice how programmed we are as a society to be "sorry" for every little thing we are and do. Listen closely, and you'll hear that "sorry" and "I'm sorry" are a bit too common in our dialogue. It's as if we walk on eggshells around certain people and situations unable to express our truth.
Have you ever dealt with frustrating emotions that you just could not put your finger on? I can also admit to feeling this way at times, and I've learned that being out of touch with my own emotions is the problem. This happens when we are so plugged in to everything and everyone else but ourselves, which is dangerous. To prevent this, I stop for a few moments each day, take 3 deep breaths, mentally ask myself how I'm feeling, and sort out those feelings. I also spend time alone in silence, and sometimes speak to myself (yep, I sure do!). Always check in with yourself to find out what you're feeling, what you need, and to comfort yourself emotionally.
Put Yourself First.
We've probably all been guilty on various occasions of putting others before ourselves when we know we should've been first, or putting or needs and feelings on the back burner to make others more comfortable. Though putting others first is an act of kindness and is totally necessary at times, we all know of instances in which we should be putting ourselves first. Use your instincts to decipher.
We don't celebrate ourselves enough. Why? Well, there's always someone there to remind us of what we haven't done or "can't do". There's other people who refuse to celebrate themselves and feel like it wouldn't be right for you to do so. Also, many people believe that celebrating self is a form of selfishness and narcissism. These things couldn't be further from the truth. Celebrating self enhances self love and appreciation. It maintains a healthy pride in self and keeps us aware of our own progress.
Speak Highly of Yourself.
When someone asks you about you, what do you say? Better yet, how do you say it? This any many other factors of speaking of yourself are major in honoring self. Of course, you represent who you are as a person with the things you say, do, and how you express yourself. Make a habit of speaking greatly of who you are, what you have done, and of the wonderful traits that make up who you are. I think I deserve to brag a little, how about you?