I recently saw a quote that read "don't just be good to others, be good to yourself too", and it had me thinking: are we truly good to ourselves? Does everything we do honor ourselves in some sort of way? Honoring self is a task that runs deep, and one that I've had to strengthen in my own life. I could easily blame being stressed out and used up on other people, but they were just were signs that I hadn't been honoring myself, and I'm sure many other people have experienced this at one point or another in life. So what can we do to honor ourselves better than what we've been practicing? Begin with these six tips to change the way you treat yourself, and get better results out of life.
As we increase in age and maturity, it is expected that our responsibilities increase with life changes. Of course, then begins the challenge and change in routine, causing us to perceive much of life as complicated and stressful. School, jobs, family, relationships, and personal needs often add to the frustrations of life and many people are heard speaking of their frustrations as if they are part of the job description of life. I often enter conversations with people that I haven't connected with for quite some time and upon asking "How are you?" or anything along those lines, I receive some semi-depressing response dealing with their job, financial situation, or education. Because I never ask someone "How are you" unless I sincerely desire to know, I leave these sorts of mini-conversations confused, because the person spoke nothing of themselves, but of everything outside of themselves. Now certainly, mostly everything outside of us and how we perceive it is a reflection of everything inside of us, emotionally, spiritually, physically, and mentally, therefore, it is easy to see many things, including our jobs, education, and financial situations as a major part of us. Being that mostly everything outside of us and how we perceive them deals greatly and accordingly to our emotional, spiritual, physical, and mental state, if our initial perception of these things are negative, what can we conclude about ourselves? Could it be that our frustrations concerning many of life's elements suggest that we change our innermost self? If so, what is it that we must change?
Changing our inner selves to alleviate the "frustrations" concerning daily life deals greatly with knowledge. There are two parts of knowledge which must be addressed in order to obtain happiness while in the presence of this sort of frustration: knowledge of your frustration, and knowledge of self. Quite simply, the two really go hand in hand. If the source of your frustrations is anything that you were not physically born with, then it is an issue of self knowledge.Things that we accumulate along the way in life's journey are simply reflections of us, that are not definitions of us. In order to understand this, we must know ourselves. Too often, many people get caught up in the "serious" parts of life, the status quo, and the success measurements, and make the immense mistake of defining themselves by how much they've accumulated externally while on their life journey. This happens because of lack of knowledge of self. When we do not travel inward and have that conversation to get closer to our inner man/woman, we miss out on intricate details about our personality, our likes, dislikes, our needs, the desires of the heart, the greatness of self, and much more.
Nothing changes until... something changes, and if nothing changes, then nothing changes. Whether we want to admit that or not, our refusal to change is the reason we lack what we desire and is almost always our own fault. It's totally human to want a life change, but also totally human to lack the discipline to get there.
The secret with any change is to start small and build. The best place to start? Mentally. The beautiful thing about mental change is its ability to alter the external. This is perhaps the most solidifying form of change. Speaking from experience, the journey of changing your mentality is an ultimate game changer.
Start with developing these 3 mental habits which has the power to change your outlook, thought process, attitude, and life quality for the better!
Did you know that May is recognized as "National Recommitment Month"? On the list of too many national days, months, and weeks to count, this is actually one I find necessary and will completely stand by. While commitment may be the act of simply doing what you said you would do no matter what, it unfortunately isn't that simple for many. However, commitment isn't something that we can just brush under the rug in our everyday lives. Commitment is a major component of everyday life. So no, there is no waking up one day and saying "This commitment thing is hard, I'm not going to do it today". It simply does not work that way. Everyday is a commitment. You may be committed to going to work to receive pay, or committed to taking a shower to stay clean, committed to eating a meal to nourish your body, committed to paying for services and costs to receive their benefits and features, etc. The list goes on, but as you can clearly see, commitment is a way of life, and there's no escaping it.
May being National Recommitment Month is perfect for focusing our energies into what we truly desire. It's the fifth month of the year, foreshadowing our halfway through the year mark, reminding us of the goals and visions that we've had in place at the start of the new year, and pulling us out of the comfort that we may have unconsciously slipped into.
Stress. It's the "S" word that can effortlessly creep up without warning, and something that most of us are very likely to deny. However, let's face it; when you find yourself in a constant state of worry, foggy-brained, and constantly in anger, then stress may have just invited its way in. So how do we cope with stress that we somehow have invited in?
In reality, stress is the result of our tendency to over-complicate, overthink, and perhaps over-analyze various parts of our lives, Luckily, eliminating stress isn't as complicated as inviting it in; in fact, eliminating stress can be a very simple process. Read on to discover 7 simple ways to get rid of stress whenever it creeps up!
Confession: Over the years, I may have grown into a "peace extremist". It's almost a scary way to think, because I wonder if I'd become addicted to protecting my peace at ALL costs. When I've truly mastered the art of protecting my peace at all costs, what would it look like? Well, admittedly, past efforts of protecting my peace have looked a bit whacky from far off. Waking up and getting rid of a car, tossing away almost my whole wardrobe (read all about it here), uprooting myself from my home in a day, going miles and miles for walks just to clear my mind (not recommended), loving someone from a distance, starting from scratch in my social life...it's nearly frightening to think that it could get more extreme than that. However truthfully, protecting your peace doesn't need to be so complicated at all. It can be the simple ways that you protect your peace which can have major impact.
While what is considered "peaceful" may differ from person to person, there are a few key clues and things to look for in order to determine if something will truly destroy your peace. Read on for 3 questions to ask yourself in order to effortlessly protect your peace!
Looking around at society with a bit of observation, one thing can for sure be concluded: everyone is busy. Not just any "busy", but some sort of a frantic, rushed, anxious busy. We work, we strive, we contemplate on what's next based off of our circumstances. We all desire, deep down inside, to be better and to live better lives. We have goals daily that we move toward with such vigor, in hopes to "make it", and to finally obtain that next level of comfort. At the end of the day, what do we feel? The majority of us are not fulfilled, and if anyone were to disagree, I would immediately point out the quality of living for the average American, the ways in which we define ourselves, what we do for pain, and what we do for joy. With that said, if we cannot find ourselves fulfilled, calm, peaceful, confident, and in bliss for the majority of our day and at bedtime, then there is more than likely some part of us that feels like a failure. What influences could trigger such vile thoughts within self? Obviously, if there are influences that cause us to feel like a failure, they reside externally and shape us internally. Why? It is because with our lack of self-worth and self-confidence, we allow them to. So then, what are the damaging elements that cause us to feel like a failure? Let's explore: Below are 7 common habits that can cause us to feel like "failures".
Comparing yourself to someone else is one of the ultimate forms of disrespect. It's as if you discredit your own goodness for the admiration of someone else's. Are YOU not special, talented, and accomplished? Everyone has different journeys and no two roads are the same, this is why we are different.
2. Living up to what is "expected" of you
You cannot please everyone! Sadly, some of us do try. We worry about our actions, words, and choices being acceptable in the eyes of others. We often want to maintain a certain image that is familiar to everyone else in order to maintain love, respect, and acceptance. This encourages a longing in the spirit and if not careful, causes us to lose touch with true self.
3. Allowing things to define you
So many of us lack an understanding of how valuable we truly are, therefore, we seek value in other things. This is usually due to outside influences that crowd our judgement while we are "lost".
It's no secret that toxins and pollution run slightly rampant all around us, but luckily, our immune system and natural defense system does a great job of fighting those things off (so fear not...no need to live in a bubble!) . However, optimal health, and boosting our health requires that we take great care of our bodies and surroundings. We can avoid illnesses and discomfort by reducing the amount of harmful things that we are exposed to daily. Living toxic-free is certainly something to strive for on the journey to living a healthier lifestyle. Check out these 5 ways to begin removing toxins from your life!
"So much to do! When can I relax?" If that phrase, or something close to it sounds familiar, then you may be led to believe that your busy lifestyle is preventing you from getting the rest that you need. In actuality, you could simply be overlooking your opportunity to rest. What I've discovered about my "busy" lifestyle is that if we commit to getting rest, say 'no' to the things that causes us to squander away valuable time, and build more awareness around our daily lives, then we'd ease our overly-busy lifestyles tremendously. For ways to do just that, read on for 7 simple ways to relax...even with a busy lifestyle!
One thing that I love about a new day is the new possibilities, the ability to make it even better than the previous day, and to consistently become a better person with every passing day.
I've created my morning routine with activities that allow me to honor those things. My morning routine is also one that fits me and is simple to me, yet powerful, and keeps me focused on the goals I have and the type of woman I am always working toward becoming. While I feel like everyone should have a morning routine, I know that not one morning routine will suit everyone, as everyone is unique.
With that being said, because there is no "correct" way to do a morning routine, I've provided 5 helpful tips to designing your own morning routine. Read on!
Saudia can be described as a lifestyle and style innovator. She expresses her passion for creating a holistically fulfilling life via her blog, Explore Express Inspire (found at www.exploreexpressinspire.com). The blog is the online go-to guide for holistic self care, discussing holistic ways to look great, live great, and think great thoughts.