Comparing yourself to someone else is one of the ultimate forms of disrespect. It's as if you discredit your own goodness for the admiration of someone else's. Are YOU not special, talented, and accomplished? Everyone has different journeys and no two roads are the same, this is why we are different.
2. Living up to what is "expected" of you
You cannot please everyone! Sadly, some of us do try. We worry about our actions, words, and choices being acceptable in the eyes of others. We often want to maintain a certain image that is familiar to everyone else in order to maintain love, respect, and acceptance. This encourages a longing in the spirit and if not careful, causes us to lose touch with true self.
3. Allowing things to define you
So many of us lack an understanding of how valuable we truly are, therefore, we seek value in other things. This is usually due to outside influences that crowd our judgement while we are "lost".
It's easy to get caught up in the anxiety of what's next. Worrying about the future implies that we are not confident in what is to come. Often when we are unaware of how blessed and accomplished we are at this very moment, we get caught up in the future, unable to make room for gratitude and self-appreciation.
5. Striving to fit in
When we get the perception that we are "lost", we often follow the crowd. This action doesn't allow us to explore self, and leaves us unfulfilled as we live other peoples' lives and not our own. No two people are the same! Trying to "fit in" is basically trying to be another person which deters us from our own journey.
6. Defining success in dollar amounts
Perhaps the most common misinterpretation concerning success is that it has a Universal measuring system which can be calculated in dollar amounts. Many of us have no clue whatsoever what success looks like, and therefore we take a guess at it by only counting our money. Though money is a result of different parts of our success, much more goes into becoming a better person and living a better life. Because many people do not understand this, any amount of money may seem like it "isn't enough".
7. Taking too much "advice"
While it is a great thing to be humbled under the wisdom of others, an old saying states: "all advice ain't good advice". This couldn't be more true. At the end of the day, we have to make our own decisions, we have to face our own reality, and we have to live our own lives. Every person's journey is unique, therefore, there is only so much advice that we can take. No one has ever done what you have done, or have done it quite like you. Learn to listen to the "inner voice", and move with instinct more often.
There is one last thing to understand:
"Success" and "failure" are really one in the same. Failure doesn't really exist as a horrible incident, but rather an unexpected experience. If we were to shift our perception about failure, we would discover that within every failure, there is an equivalent of great success. "In every lesson, there is a blessing".